Congrats to Mr. GTO and soon to be Mrs. GTO!
By the by, if you can't manage a joint checking account with your spouse then your relationship is dewmed. Even if you do negotiate some sort of seemingly agreeable alternative, if you can't trust the other person with money there's a big problem there that needs to be fixed. Fundamentally if you cannot cooperate with your money it's not in the cards to end up happily ever after together.
By the by, if you can't manage a joint checking account with your spouse then your relationship is dewmed. Even if you do negotiate some sort of seemingly agreeable alternative, if you can't trust the other person with money there's a big problem there that needs to be fixed. Fundamentally if you cannot cooperate with your money it's not in the cards to end up happily ever after together.